College is the easiest time to get a girlfriend. You will never have a chance like this ever again. The majority of people meet their lover through friend’s introduction, school or work.
1. Lift weight like a beast
The majority of students aren’t willing to spend time in the gym, in a consistent basis. I thought New Year Resolution crowd is a public gym thing – I was wrong. When I was lifting weight in a university gym, on January first was a flood of new people then they disappeared 3 weeks later.
If you’re willing to put in the time to lift weight and get aesthetic, you will be head and shoulders above your peers. Going to the gym and lifting weight for 45 minutes a session, 3 times a week isn’t a big deal – yet most average people aren’t willing to do it (but they’re willing to watch TV for 3 hours)
Lift weight 3 times a week, get big. A good weight lifting routine is push / pull / legs. When I first started going to the gym, I watched youtube vids on proper form to bench press, squat, over head press etc. I recommend you do the same (there is no need to over think).
Go on the poor student’s diet of tuna, oatmeal, eggs, rice, beans, frozen chicken to get aesthetic. While buying whey protein shake is nice, it isn’t necessary. If you have a student meal plan, go ahead and abuse it. Eat big, get big.
(I was skinny growing up. I thought i was a “hard gainer” but I was wrong – I simply wasn’t eating enough. When I was in Vietnam, I wasn’t do much other than eating all day and lifting weight 3 times a week. After 2 months, I gained 10 pounds of fat and muscles)
The simple formula to getting aesthetic: Lift heavy weight, eat big, sleep. Grind to get your muscles, just like a crack head selling stolen DVDs for $5 on the street corner. When you’re in the gym, do 5 sets of 5 repetition. Lift moderately heavy so you feel somewhat sore the next day.
I know school can be busy. Squeeze in that gym session (45 minutes is good) Go in, lift, get out.
If you’re a freshman reading this and take my advice to heart, by the end of first year you’ll look like someone who is big and strong. By the end of the 4th year, you’ll be aesthetic looking as fuck.
Lifting weight is an addiction – once you start, it’s going to be a habit for life. Welcome to the club.
2. Dress good, look like a boss
Most students come to class in sweat pants and sweaters. The girl looks like she rolled out of bed, didn’t washed her and came to class. When you dress like a boss, women will treat you like a boss; I guarantee it.
While other male students dress in sweat pants and sweater, you dress to impress in college. To be better, be different. Dress better every day and you will be known as the “good looking, good dressing” guy. That’s your reputation. You’ll soon be known as the “good dressing guy” on campus. Women love to gossip, after all.
You don’t have to spend fortune on clothes – just buy 3 dress shirts, 3 blazers, 3 pants, 2 jackets to mix and match. Aim for the smart casual look. You can’t go wrong with a clean shaven, smart casual look.
You don’t have to drop big money on designer clothes. A famous brand that is popular world wide is Zara. You can order online and have it ship to you. I only buy from Zara because it’s slim fit and it’s nice (but the quality can be a hit or miss)
I cut my own hair, high and tight. It’s not hard to cut your own hair and save money. Here’s a video on how to cut your own hair at home, with a cheap clipper:
Cutting your own hair takes a bit of practice but you’ll get it – it’s not hard.
You will save tons of money but more importantly, time. My biggest pet peeve is to drive to the haircut shop, wait 35 minutes for a haircut, get a 35 minutes haircut (when he could have cut it in 15 minutes) then drive home with an itchy neck and take a shower. What a waste of time!
Yes, you’re going to need money to look good. Get a part time job and bring sneak your own alcohol to the bar. I stress quality over quantity – buy 3 blazers, 3 dress shirts, 3 trousers, 3 v-neck t-shirts. It should cost you around $600 or so.
3. Join clubs with a good female ratio
What better way to find a girlfriend then joining an art, drama and dance class. The male to female ratio is about 1:6. Join dance class, so you can bust a move and bust a nut.
The first time I went into a “dance studio”, it was like 39 women, 3 men. What the heck! If you go to a yoga class, put some air fresher on your clothes because it’s going to smell like tuna.
Once, I joined a video game club and it was full of guys with stinky clothes. I laughed and walked out of the club. What a train wreck.
Any club that has to do with art, film or dance is going to be filled with women.
4. Just say Hi
There is never a “perfect” time to introduce yourself and chat. Just do it and don’t think much about it. (I know, easier said than done, especially with people in the room. But then again, who cares what they think)
Say hi, get her contact information and set up a date.
- Be confident (don’t ask for permission)
- Tell funny stories or witty comebacks
- Be a gentleman (hold the door for her, pay for the first round of drinks)
- Give sincere compliments
- Tell her what you’re passionate about
- Be curious of what she’s passionate about
- Do tell her you’re going to take her on a date (be upfront about your intentions ensure that you won’t waste your time with the wrong woman maybe she’s a lesbian, she has a boyfriend etc)
- Don’t judge her (“what, you have herpes and a yeast problem?!”)
- Don’t complain
- Avoid sexual advances too early (play it cool)
- Avoid pick up lines
5. Approach her, even if she isn’t in your class
When you’re out eating lunch at the cafe or studying in the library, approach her. Most guys aren’t willing to approach because they’re chicken shit.
My style of approach is really direct and low-key. I come over, say “Hi”, give her a sincere compliment and ask if she has free time to hang out with me.
If she likes me, she will ask defensively: “you do this all the time right?”, which I reply: “Ha! I wish. I barely have time because I got a part-time job. Besides, I had to work up courage to approach you.”
As you notice, I’m 100 honest and I don’t try hard or try to have witty come backs.
If you want to date hotter women or more women than the average guy, you must over come your fear and approach “random” women around your campus.
Of course, some jerk off pick up artist is going to try to sell you some ebook on “the art of approach” and in the ebook he’s going to recommend you spout some puke inducing pick up line.
You don’t need none of that. Instead of “tricking” women with pick up lines or trying extra hard to be clever and have “game”, just dress good, look good, smell good. Approach her, say Hi, be a normal human being and she will chase you because she can see that you’re a stand up, high value guy.
6. How to get sex from her
Women love sex – from the right type of men, namely, high self esteem, high value men. That’s why they love men with confidence and men who lead. Men with confidence and can lead usually make more money and get further ahead in life. But I’m getting ahead of myself. Let’s talk about getting sex.
In a sense, you don’t “get” sex from her; she gets sex from you. Because her panties will be wet when she looks at your chiseled muscle and confident smirk.
She desperately wants you to fuck her; so it’s your job to fuck her and fuck her good. Fuck her until the wee hours of the morning. Fuck her so hard that she can’t walk. Fuck her so good that she tells about her friends about you.
So called “dating coach” give mechanic advice like “you want to put your hands on her upper back” and “you occasionally want to put your hand on her thigh …” guess what buddy? I don’t put my hand on the woman’s thigh nor do I touch her lower back? Do you know why? Because she touches my thigh and touches my arms.
There is a world’s difference between a try hard, average male who is chasing a girl and a high self esteemed uber human who just sits there, is fucking awesome and have the girl chase him.
Don’t get me wrong – when I’m on a date, I would occasionally spank her ass in public. But I don’t try hard to clutch her hands or try hard to impress and win her. Be naturally awesome instead of contrived and scripted.
70 percent of the work is lifting weight and dressing good.
Dress good, look good, feel good, smell good. Read good books, be an interesting person with hobbies and adventures to tell.
Women can sense when a guy got his shit together and she will chase. You know what’s a boring? Chasing a woman. The uber human is busy. Let her fall head over heels for you.
Expect compliments and looks of admiration. It’s a self looping cycle that boost your confidence.
Some “”pick up artist”” “”experts”” recommend approaching women and saying hi to get over the fear of approach. Which is fine. But if you’re a high self esteemed uber human, you don’t need to do practice approach, because your approach is the real deal.
How do I know? Because I was in the pick up community back in 2005 when it was still underground and I did spam mass approaches. It helped but introspect it was a waste of time – I could have spent my time bettering myself.
For the date, bring her to a bar. Afterwards, tell her “come back to my place to watch a scary movie” and then have wild sex. Making monkey noises and chest beating is optional. Don’t do dinner and movie, cause it’s boring. Movie and dinner is for a girlfriend only.
I think online dating is great; I had girlfriends whom I met online.
Online dating is the “normal” thing now, even your average high school student is using tinder to hook up. (my friend met his girlfriend through tinder)
(Also known as the “best kept secret on the Internet”, it’s a social website with over 10 million people. Good for hooking up or finding a girlfriend – give it a try)
It used to be that, only people who were weird or had no friends went on the Internet and looked for a partner (about 15 years ago, when the Internet wasn’t so mainstream) but nowadays, online dating is pretty common.
Over all, online dating is okay to me. I’m not against online dating because there are plenty of shy women out there who prefer to meet and chat with people online before meeting them offline.
In fact, I met two of my Japanese girlfriends through a language exchange website. One of my Japanese wanted to marry me but I wasn’t ready at that point. Love is everywhere for the high value self esteemed male.
You have all the information you need
What I wrote in this article, you already know. But there’s a huge gap between knowing and doing – my goal is to (if you haven’t already) motivate you to lift weight, dress good and be your best positive self.
So go ahead, join the gym. Document your greatness. Be great, look great. Women will naturally come and flock to you, like bees on honey. And when you’re feeling cocky enough, you might write a guide on how to get a girlfriend in college.
Until next week,