What do women really want?
Before I answer that, let me ask you a question. What’s the difference between a piece of shit $20 dumb phone … and the latest iPhone (that people are willing to spend $900+ and wait overnight in line for it?)
Women love, love high value men! She wears make up and puts on her best outfit, hoping that her prince charming would show up and sweep her off her feet. High value men are rare, while mediocre men are many. So she sighs and goes back to reading her romance novel titled “bad boy billionaire.”
Open any romance novel (a gateway to a woman’s psyche) and you’ll see: “He was a tall, rich guy with a six pack. I didn’t want to but he was aggressive and fucked me on our first date. My ass was sore the next morning. He didn’t call me for 3 days and that made my heart fluttered. I asked him why and he said he was busy. This just makes me want him more …”
What women don’t want:
- the boring nice guy
The age old question: does looks matter? Well …
With that said, it’s talk about pick up artists.
Pick up artists: the good and the ugly
Good examples of cold approach:
I discovered “game” in 2003, when it was still an underground movement. I remember going to a college campus near my home (I was still a high school student) and gotten lots of phone numbers, went on a few dates and fucked a first year university student in the school’s washroom (yeah, classy, I know). In a way, game is about compressing 10 years of social interaction into 1 year.
In 2005, pick up artistry was exposed and entered mainstream consciousness thanks to “The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists” by Neil Strauss. Now everyone and their grandmas know about game.
When I was picking approaching women at the bar, the bartender (female) asked me if I wanted to go on smoke break with her. Then she told me how I was a “pick up artist” and she knew about Mystery and other popular pick up artists. Once, I overheard a group of Asian guys pointing at us and said: “they’re pick up artists!”
Pick up is fun. If your seduction skills isn’t up to par, it’s a great way to speed up the skill.
The cringe side of pick up
Learning seduction skills from pick up is useful to a certain point. After that, there is a point of diminishing return, where it becomes cringe worthy, especially when a bunch of middle aged men sit around in a room spewing complex theories on how to attract women.
I knew a guy (a friend of a friend) who was 17 years old at the time. He discovered game and his mind was blown. All he did all day was “game”. He didn’t attend school or worked. He asked his mom for money and went around trying to pick up women. He did this for 3 years. The last time I heard of him, he pulled a knife on his mom. His mom called the cops, which made him ran down the street in the middle of the night (in his underwear)
There is more to life than chasing pussy.
What exactly is “game”? To make her fall in love, fast. Speed is the name of the game.
Okay. So what is minimal game? Instead of chasing women, let them chase you. How? Become a man of high value. Call it “passive” pick up, if you will.
Every since I packed on muscles and dress like a boss, game has become infinitely easier: instead of trying hard to impress her with funny jokes or pick up lines, I simply smile, tease her as if she’s my girlfriend and get her phone number … which leads to a date and fun times in the bedroom. Simple enough, yet pick up artists still sell $1000 seminars on how to pick up women, LOL!
Lift weight, make good money, read good books, have interesting hobbies and travel the world. Develop yourself as an interesting person and women will chase you down.
Here’s a breakdown of my minimal game:
Where to approach? Everywhere.
Dress good, smell good, look good.
Smile and introduce yourself. Occasionally wink at her. Tell a joke or two and get to know her more. Pick up lines suck.
When women say “just be yourself.” they mean don’t be nervous.
Whatever you do, don’t try hard to impress her because women are good at detecting try hard behaviors. Many men are too eager to please, so they smile too much or nod too much.
Below is a good example of a guy who nervous / trying hard to please
(notice the sharp contrast: he’s fidgeting, crossing his arms, touching his glasses, shifting his feet, nodding rigorously, nervous laughter while the girls are standing there, inanimated)
Ask what type of food she likes and invite her out. My favorite line is: “give me your number.”
The date itself:
Dinner and movies are cliche and boring. A coffee date is cheap and boring. I like eating in restaurants. We split the bill. Then we either go to the bar for drinks, to a park or mall, or an art gallery.
An important part is holding her hand. If we’re holding hands like a couple, then there is a 90 percent chance of sex going down … tonight.
Afterwards, I tell her to come over to my place to “watch a movie.” Cuddle, watch a movie and then fuck.
The “secret” to sex that night is giving her a massage. No joke. I learned this from my ex-girlfriend who told me: “You know, going to the spa and getting a massage makes me horny as fuck.”
One time, I was giving this girl a massage and …
Her: I have to leave and go to sleep
Her: Because I’m getting horny and can’t control myself.
Me: Don’t worry, I got condoms.
Fuck her good. Go on a couple more dates, fuck a few more times until she says …
“So, you want to be my boyfriend?”
Dealing with “rejections”
Some women simply won’t be interested in you. Maybe she’s a lesbian. Maybe you’re not your type. Maybe she’s in a committed relationship. Rejection is a good thing; so you don’t waste your time with someone who just isn’t into you.
Keeping a relationship
Some relationships don’t work out and that’s okay; some personalities aren’t compatible long term. As for keeping a relationship, this worked for me:
- Keep developing yourself to become a high value man
- Fuck her good and occasionally be romantic
- Buy her stuff (LOL)
- Don’t be needy
If you pay for the meals and vacation trips, buy her gifts on special occasions, have meaningful conversations and fuck her good – while keeping fit and having interesting hobbies, she will have a hard time leaving you.
Contrast to the average Joe: he’s skinny fat, has a beer gut and bitch tits with noodle arms. “Date night” involves watching TV at home and “chilling”. He fucks her for 40 seconds before running out of breath. He gets jealous of her hanging out with other men. He later finds out that she’s fucking a big black man with a big black cock behind his back.
How to “automatically” become a man of high value
If you’re working or going to school full time, you won’t have much control of your day; but, you do have control of your mornings and evenings. Have a morning and evening routine to develop yourself.
My morning routine:
- 10 minutes meditation
- read a book for 1 hour (on my e-reader)
- write for 1-2 hour (to publish on this blog and make money with Amazon Kindle)
- Muay Thai class for 3 hours (3 times per week) or lift weight
- skills development 1-3 hours (English grammar, foreign language learning, copy writing etc)
- 25 minutes full body stretch
- 1-2 hours of work for side business before going to bed
In conclusion …
Work on yourself and become a high value man; women will flock to you, en mass.
Ignore pick up artists because they’re a cringe group with half baked theories on how to attract women.
A person who I look up to is Elon Musk; he’s out there changing the world. And guess what? Because he’s a high value man, he married a 22 years old actress when he was 40 years old. That’s right – he got some of that fresh pussy.
When you fucked enough women and have more relationships than you care to remember, you might be cocky enough to write a blog post on “what women really want.”
See you next week.